How to Deal with Parents Who Don't Pray? - Shaykh Ibn Bāz 

ما كيفية التعامل مع الوالدين الذَيْن لم يصلّيا ؟ 

السؤال: أبي لا يقيم الصلاة في المسجد ولا في البيت فهل إذا أمرته بإقام الصلاة ولم يصل هل يجب علي أن اخرج من البيت ام لا ؟ 

Question: My father doesn't establish Ṣalah in the masjid or the house. So, if I instruct him to establish the prayers and he doesn't pray, does it become obligatory upon me to leave the house or not?

الشيخ: عليك أن تنصحه دائما وتجتهد في نصيحته بالأسلوب الحسن والكلام الطيب

Shaykh: It is upon you to continuously advise him and strive in it with an excellent manner and good speech.

وينبغي ألا تخرج لأن وجودك عنده من اسباب هدايته.

And it's obligatory that you do not leave because your presence with him is from the means of guiding him.

قال الله جل وعلا بالمشركَيْن من الوالدين { وَإِن جَـٰهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰۤ أَن تُشۡرِكَ بِی مَا لَیۡسَ لَكَ بِهِۦ عِلۡمࣱ فَلَا تُطِعۡهُمَاۖ وَصَاحِبۡهُمَا فِی ٱلدُّنۡیَا مَعۡرُوفࣰاۖ } [سُورَةُ لُقۡمَانَ: ١٥] 

Allāh, the Exalted said about the parents who are mushrikun (polytheists): "But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly." [Sūrah Luqmān, 15]

فأمر الله ولد المشركَيْن أن يصاحبهما في الدنيا معروفا ولم يأمره بخروج عنهما فأنت تصاحبهما في الدنيا معروفا بكلام الطيب وقضاء حاجته الجائزه طعامه وشرابه وكسوته

Therefore, Allāh commanded the son of the mushrikun (polytheists) to behave kindly with them in the dunyā and He did not command him to leave them. 

So you behave kindly with them in this world by speaking good, fulfilling their needs, and preparing for them food, drink and clothes.

تنصح له دائما تدعو له في سجودك في آخر صلاتك وفي كل وقت أن الله يهديه وأن الله يمُنّ عليه بالتوفيق ويشرح قلبه للايمان

Advise him always and make dua for him in your sujūd, towards the end of your ṣalah, and during all times that Allāh guides him, bestows upon him tawfīq (success), and opens his heart to Imān.

ولا تخرج عنه ولكن بالاساليب الحسن والكلام الطيب مع اللين. تدعو الله يأتي باسبابه.

You should not leave him, but deal with them with excellent mannerisms and good speech with gentleness. Supplicate to Allah that He brings about its means (for his guidance).

ثم أيضا تعرف على الناس الطيبين الذين يعرفهم ويُقدِّرهم حتى ياتوا إليه وحتى ينصحوه ويساعدوك على اسباب الهداية

Also, find some good people whom he knows and respects, so that they come to him, advise him, and help you with the means of guiding him.

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