"It is permissible for the suitor to see the woman to whom he is proposing marriage.
Some scholars stipulated that his desire should not be provoked when looking, and that his aim should be only to find out.
If his desire is provoked then he must stop looking, because before the marriage contract is done with a woman, it is not appropriate to enjoy looking at her, so he must refrain. In this situation the woman must come out to the suitor looking ordinary; she should not come out wearing beautiful clothes or makeup, because she is not yet his wife.
Moreover, if she comes to him looking beautiful and wearing her best clothes, then he may propose because he was dazzled by her the first time he looked at her, then he will find out that she is not as she appeared to him at first."
š Fatawa Nur 'Ala Al-Darb, tape no. 258
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