MARITAL COMPARISONS OF COUPLES 

It's indeed a sad reality that nowadays we Muslims turn away from Allah's legislation and His messenger to following our desires. 

Many marital home are in constant conflict in one way or the other but now, we focus on the problem resulting from comparison. 

Allah says: "If you are grateful, I will certainly give you more." (14:7)

Our sustenance the way it is, is what Allah knows it's best for you. 

If you earn 10dollars monthly, live a life of ten dollars monthly and stop being ungrateful. If you're grateful, Allah will give you more as He has promised. 

Allah says: “Indeed, Allah does not break His promise.” Quran 3:9

He has promised you increase if you're grateful, why not be? 

What you need, Allah has provided it and not what you want because what you may want is dangerous to you yet you don't realise it.

Sadly after all the Allah's blessings upon our lives, we turn to appreciate HIM with ungratefulness by LIVING A LIE INSTEAD OF LIVING A LIFE. Living a lie? Yes because we turn to lie to ourselves that what we have isn't insufficient and not what we need and that's why we turn to compare our lives with that of others around us....

TO WOMEN 

Many of the married women are a majority of those living a LIE trying to compare with friends who have better than them. 

Dear sisters, if your husband can afford only vegetables, then that's your standard and you must live by it and be happy which is gratefulness and not comparing with a friend or neighbors whose husbands afford chickens.

If your husband can afford you a cloth worth 10 dollars, that's what Allah knows is best for you, stop trying to live a lie or giving your husband sleepless night simply because he can't afford all you want. 

Worst of it is that we try to copy from movies how to live of which it's a programmed script to entertaining people and stop being ungrateful to the sacrifices of your husband.

Let me remind you of a hadith that if it doesn't stop you from being ungrateful and comparing your living standards with that others, then you have a serious problem. 

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you." Sahih bukhari, no.29

With this, I hope our ungrateful sisters change and be the source of coolness and happiness to their husbands.

TO MEN

Many times, when we talk of women appreciating and being grateful of what they receive from their husbands, many brothers take it as an advantage to be stingy towards their wives which is a sin. It's your responsibility to take care of your wife based on what Allah has enriched you with! 

Sadly, you'll see a man with expensive clothes, shoes, perfumes, phones, etc yet his wife at home can barely eat or dress properly. He buys clothes for himself every month but buys something for his wife only during Eid and wallahi it's a sad reality. Not only that but after buying such and if the wife asks of something again, he will react as if he used the whole world to buy her the cloth.

Dear brothers, it's your responsibility of taking good care of your wife or wives. Some men are the reasons why their wives cheat so just to take care of themselves (sisters such act is completely forbidden in Islam). A woman loves to look good and beautiful! 

The husband has to treat his wife in a good and kind manner, and to spend on her food, drink, clothing and accommodation, because Allah says: 

“and live with them honourably” [al-Nisa 4:19] 

Dear brothers, did you know spending on your wives or family is the best way of charity? Yet sadly, some men eat chicken by the roadside and buy fish for their wives waiting at home. Fear Allah 

Ahmad (20025) and Abu Dawood (2142) narrated that Mu’awiyah ibn Haydah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, what are the rights of the wife of any one of us over him?” He said: “That you should feed her when you feed yourself, clothe her when you clothe yourself, you should not hit her on the face, you should not curse her and you should not forsake her except in the house.”

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) regarded being kind to one's family as being the criterion with regard to who is best. Whoever wants to be one of the best of the Muslims should be kind to his family, which includes being kind to one’s wife, children and relatives.

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